The original discussion is here (http://implicated2.dreamwidth.org/25538.html?thread=56002), though it also turned up on yuletide_coal. In fairness to the OP, she did get a bit more sense, though her final preferred re-wordings spectacularly miss the point that you can't word things in a way guaranteed not to upset others, given that she things "I absolutely don't want: X" is a nicer way of the traditional Yuletide "DNW" or "No: X" that couldn't upset anyone.
I have seen the spreadsheet, but I can't remember where! WIll try to remember and link.
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Date: 2014-10-07 08:18 pm (UTC)I have seen the spreadsheet, but I can't remember where! WIll try to remember and link.