I think my epiphany was when I asked my mother how she did it, and she said ' Oh, I just water them a bit when they need it', which is fine when you have a qualification in horticulture, a professional career, and a hobby backing you up, and I decided that I needed a completely different approach. So I now have an orchid regime. The orchid lives somewhere obvious, where I won't forget it - it spent the period when it wasn't flowering in the kitchen by the draining board. It gets watered every weekend, by being put under the tap and the tap turned on so that the pot and roots are soaked, and then held for a minute or so, so the water drains out. The pot is clear, so that I can see what is going on. I bought some feed, and I feed it according to the schedule on the bottle (sometimes I feed it so it gets a bit less, but never more). My main problem before was feeling I never got the water right - I neglected it, or did it too often so it rotted because I was trying not to neglect it. A good drenching once a week, with a bit more water if necessary in summer, seems to work.