On the one hand, I understand that someone into the BDSM / kink scene might not happy about about a Yuletide letter, "please no bondage and spanking because that's only for gross losers LOL". It's probably harder to write a nice Yuletide gift for someone who inadvertently offended you.
But holy moly, this whole post could have been a lot briefer and less soul-searching (not to mention the comments). Though it wasn't as bad as it might have been. More earnestly naval-gazing and overly serious than the truly wanky kind.
What's wrong with just saying "if you want to exclude certain things from your YT gift, and do so politely, please state, 'I'm personally not into X/Y/Z and I wouldn't want to read about it in my fic.'" End of story. Everyone's happy. Well, mostly everyone, except for the people who will never be happy with anything.
And, as you said, you can never make 100% sure that you'll never ever offend anyone. In fact, this is just guaranteed to end up offending someone. (It's fandom. And Yuletide. Someone always gets upset - with or without good reason!)
The spreadsheet would be delightful. I'm considering - very, very vaguely - doing Pico with a YT treat if something should grab me.
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Date: 2014-10-07 09:12 pm (UTC)Oh dear. I see a bit of a dilemma.
On the one hand, I understand that someone into the BDSM / kink scene might not happy about about a Yuletide letter, "please no bondage and spanking because that's only for gross losers LOL". It's probably harder to write a nice Yuletide gift for someone who inadvertently offended you.
But holy moly, this whole post could have been a lot briefer and less soul-searching (not to mention the comments). Though it wasn't as bad as it might have been. More earnestly naval-gazing and overly serious than the truly wanky kind.
What's wrong with just saying "if you want to exclude certain things from your YT gift, and do so politely, please state, 'I'm personally not into X/Y/Z and I wouldn't want to read about it in my fic.'" End of story. Everyone's happy. Well, mostly everyone, except for the people who will never be happy with anything.
And, as you said, you can never make 100% sure that you'll never ever offend anyone. In fact, this is just guaranteed to end up offending someone. (It's fandom. And Yuletide. Someone always gets upset - with or without good reason!)
The spreadsheet would be delightful. I'm considering - very, very vaguely - doing Pico with a YT treat if something should grab me.